Friday, May 15, 2009

More late night text messages....

And when I say late, i mean laaate!

Here's what happened last night:

1:46 am Him: Fuck. Another set of flip flops.

This isn't weird to me, it's him trying to start a conversation. I went back to sleep without replying.

3:03 am Him: Guess we aren't talking
3:44 am Me: You're the one blowing me off, so not sure why you're confused.
3:51 am Him: I'm not blowing you off
3:52 am Me: Yeah, not between 12 and 4am
3:53 am Him: Whatever
3:59 am Him: I'm out
4:05 am Me: It's probably for the best. I'm not some "booty call" and it's pretty clear you don't want me around.
4:06 am Him: I never treated you like that
4:08 am Me: Only texting at bar close (esp on weekends) is exaaactly what that is. You may not mean it (and I don't think you do) but that is how it feels
4:10 am Him: Well do what you have to do. It's not like I come in stripping. I walk in with the intentions of trying to hang out with you
4:15 am Me: I know that, but you make these "maybe" plans with me then blow me off til after the bar is closed. Feels like you don't want me around. I can take a hint.

That was it. I'm not really one to beat around the bush. I wouldn't say I'm afraid of confrontation, if something is bothering me I usually just come right out with it. What I feel the worst about is, this is his birthday week and we got into a tiff like this? I feel really bad.

Now, I wonder if I will ever hear from again. I kind of think I will. It's not like the late night texts really bother me, and I honestly believe him when he says he doesn't think of them as booty calls. He can't sleep at night, so he usually texts me and we stay up talking. That isn't at all what is bothering me, I'm bothered by the fact that he doesn't invite me out. What happened Wednesday night for his birthday? I know he was out at the bars. This isn't the first time it's happened either. What I want to know is WHY he doesn't want me out with him too. If he really liked me, he would want me around, right? Makes me think he's seeing another girl or he doesn't want me there so he can flirt with other girls! I just don't get it.

Anyway, that's the latest. I'll keep you all posted.


Beth Dunn said...

Good for you for sticking up for yourself!

Amber said...

Doesn't he just sound like a keeper? (Sorry, sarcasm just comes out)

He sounds like someone I once knew...and still resent.

I like that you value YOURSELF! Good.

Amber said...

Yay! I'm glad you stuck up for yourself and was up front with him!

Guy's are idiots!

Larissa said...

Wait. I must have missed that it was his birthday in the last post. How rude of him! I wouldn’t overanalyze too much, but it sounds like when he wants you he texts and when he doesn’t, he drops off the face of the earth. You want to be with someone who wants you all the time. And yes, plz keep us updated on this. :D oh and have a wonderful weekend hon!

Larissa said...

p.s.- good for standing your ground!

Shoshanah said...

I'm thinking next time you might be better off just not responding. I know if I were to receive a text at 1:45am, I wouldn't respond. Not because I wasn't talking to the person, but because I was actually sleeping. If you stop answering in the middle of the night and he really does want to talk to you, he'll start calling at a normal time, right?

Jenny Georgio-who said...

Wow. When I saw that he was texting you at those late hours my mind automatically went to my exbf. He was a DJ and would always call me at the end of the night. It felt very bootycallish even if its not meant like that. He'd call me and I'd keep him alert while driving home or I'd invite him over or something.

It's not cool to have a "maybe" relationship, especially if its only between certain hours of the day. That's pretty crappy.

I'm happy you stood up for yourself!

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Way to call him out on it!!!!! Go you!!!

Amber said...

Thanks guys, I'm just feeling bummed because things were going so well at the beginning and I can't figure out where they went wrong. I know I didn't anything though, I did everything I could and was honestly as nice as possible. Most girls would have bit his head off or dumped his ass by now. For some reason my gut feeling kept telling me to hold out (and honestly it still is) buuuuut, how much longer can a girl do that?!
The more I think about Wednesday night, the more pissed off I get. Wouldn't you WANT that person you like to be around on your f'ing birthday? That is the slap in the face that I just don't get.
Oh well... Movin' on! :)

Autumn said...

I was searching around the blogesphere and came across your blog and the FIRST thing I said was "*GASP!!!* A BUTTERFLY!!!!"
I am mildly obsessed with butterflies!!! (ok, I am completely over the top about them!) And then I read your blog, and I have to say (even though I didnt read any of your other entries yet) I'm glad you dropped the guy. He sounds like a total ass (and like I said I only read this entry so far!).

Beth Dunn said...

I just gave you an award on my site! xoxo