Wednesday, January 21, 2009

What would you do?

Today I came across some news that directly affects someone that is very close to me. I'm just curious what you all would do in my shoes...

I have seen the same guy very off and on for the past 13, almost 14 years now. We have not be in touch for the past 5 years. Our longest streak, but in that time I have moved several times and dated several different people seriously.

Back in November we ran into each other. It's shocking it has taken this long, as some friends of friends of mine are good friends with him. Ever since then we have been like magnets to each other. We try to stop talking to each other, and we keep failing. The reason why I want to stay away is last year his girlfriend discovered she was pregnant. She had the baby late October and during her pregnancy she decided she was not in love with him and broke things off. He has had a really hard time taking it and is still struggling with it. Then I come along.

It's hard for me to hear him say he's not over her, but I have to put myself in his shoes. I've been there where it just seems impossible to get over someone. That is where he is right now. He's not over her, but he wants to spend time with me too. He says he's willing to try with me, and that recently he has discovered that when he is with me he doesn't think about her. Most people would say no, he can't have his cake and eat it too. But, he's not. A part of me feels like we ran into each other for a reason. He needs me to help him get over the drama that was his life last year and I need him to get through this difficult part of my life with my store closing. He is so down in the dumps right now, it's heartbreaking. The other night he said he felt the same way as me regarding us running into each other as fate and he called me his saving grace. It definitely made my heart melt into mush.

Ok, now for the moral dilemma here...

He has a very good job with a privately owned restaurant chain here in town. He owns a portion of the chain and could possibly own all of them someday. Saturday night he was really upset because he had gotten news that the owner is thinking of shutting all the restaurants down. He loves his job and is very good at what he does. If he does shut them down, he would have to either buy the owner out or lose his job.

Earlier today one of my closest friends, who incidently has worked for the restaurant chain in the past came across the news that the owner of the restaurant has contacted her current boss to see if he was interested in buying the chain. He's been in restaurant management before, so I see why the owner contacted him.

I know that what I know isn't probably anything my ex doesn't already know, but I promised my friend I wouldn't say anything to him. Plus, I don't want to hurt my ex any more than he is already hurting.

I already know what I am going to do with the information, but just out of curiousity what would any of you do?

3 comments:

Lesli said...

I would not tell him!! I would keep it to myself, hard as that might be to do. I mean, you promised. On the other hand, I can see drinking a few too many & letting it slip out. And, of course, there is the part of me that would WANT to tell him. I would be conflicted....but I would hope that I would keep my promise to not tell - yikes!

Amber said...

That is what I planned on doing, I'm just really worried about him. I feel like if this really does happen and he loses his job it will send him over the edge. I'm definitely NOT telling him. It's not like this is new news to him, he knows they're thinking about shutting down...

Lesli said...

Oh, good, I hoped we had the same thought! I mean, I think we think alike...but it is your call. Like you said, this is probably nothing he doesn't know. It will work out!!!! Now I am dying to know which restaurant, but you don't have to tell me!!